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Got your attention... (Well be honest, the SEX word got your attention) !
I'm going to attempt to tackle them one at a time (separately), I am also adding a few links to an amazing experience I had..... no not that, but by watching a video series (no, not pornography either) but, the one pictured above.
I have been on this 5 year mission now trying to understand more fully LOVE SEX AND DATING..... in particular:
The Sex ...
Since then I have been transformed in my thinking and in my actions. Let me explain:
I am a bit bemused (sadly) by the general lack of understanding of the relevance to our mind, body and soul, that this action (SEX) connotes. Ok...ok.. yes I know, if you read my (few that they are) postings, you quickly learn that I had a rather not to poignant, non-ethereal, non-angelic past. Yes, I admit my PAST view of SEX, was very much in line with what would seem to be at times 90% of society. Which is that, SEX seems to be for most, an "act" that you choose to do with whom you want, for whatever reason you want, with no regard to anything other than immediate gratification or as a means to subdue, control or manipulate someone or as a means to prove ones-self, gain attention, adoration or in some way we think having SEX with someone will make them "love us". For others it might even be that you just thought SEX was what you were supposed to do to show someone you 'liked' them.. it's expected.
Now for those of you who are in "relationships" (not marriage), you will justify your use or abuse of SEX, as being something your doing in a committed relationship with someone you love....someone you live with.. someone you have been dating for a while... someone your engaged to... and the worst of all.. someone who is a "christian" like you.
So here is my question for you , because I am not here to judge ( Matthew 7:4 How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye?). as I was bathing in this activity previously and in my eye on this matter there is a huge log, admittidly.
I am just here to ASK:
If your committed... if you love this person.... I ask:
WHY ARE YOU NOT MARRIED to them?
If you say your not sure they are the one.... I ask:
WHY ARE YOU DOING SUCH AN INTIMATE AND SACRED THING WITH A PERSON YOUR NOT SURE ABOUT?
Which poses this question....
WHY ARE YOU GIVING AWAY... (yes giving it away) THE GIFT OF THE MOST SACRED PART OF WHO YOU ARE.. THE GIFT THAT YOU SHOULD CHERISH AND MAKE SPECIAL, THE GIFT THAT IS YOUR INNERMOST SANCTUARY OF YOUR HEART.... WHY ARE YOU NOT SAVING THIS PRECIOUS , BEAUTIFUL GIFT FOR ..... THE PERSON YOU ARE MARRIED TO?
Another words, why are you giving a piece of you away EVERY time you have engage in sexual activity with someone....
Are you really ok with having to tell your future spouse about the times you have broken off a piece of your heart and given it away... are you ready to explain how each time you thought it was WORTHY... but it didn't work out? Are you really ok with knowing that when you sleep with you husband or wife on your weeding night, There is nothing special about it because you have already been sleeping together and that every person you slept with in your past is basically right there in bed with you now? Are you ok with being with the person who has been doing the same thing, having SEX , right up until you both met for the first time....
Our past, is our past. I concur, Jesus gave us the path to be cleansed and exonerated. But, how we act and behave today, right now... does matter. It does have consequences as notated in a wonderful article on CNN below:
“Do you know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body?” the apostle Paul wrote in the New Testament. “Do you know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, ‘The two will become one flesh.’”
Christian author Lauren Winner translates those verses this way: “Don’t you know that when you sleep with someone your body makes a promise whether you do or not?”
The bottom line is that you get “addicted” and “bonded” to the people you have sex with, even if they are “just friends.” http://religion.blogs.cnn.com/2011/05/31/my-take-there%e2%80%99s-nothing-brief-about-a-hookup/
Even if you are not religious, don't believe the bible, maybe you are an Atheist or Agnostic.... you can't possibly think that intimacy doesn't take its toll... or can you?
How can you explain those relationships or "hook ups" where it was pure chemistry? You had no idea who this person really was, you maybe didn't even really care, you just knew there was this unyielding, CHEMISTRY, you could not say no too.
So then as is typically, you have this connection, this draw to this person, yes you are physically drawn to them for the sex, but when you don't get along, have nothing in common, or you fight all the time, this unhealthy "friendship" is connected by the SEX ONLY. SEX draws you back to someone you know is unhealthy, sometimes causing issues with family, friends, your work, your emotional state...
Is this really OK? Explain how this DOES NOT affect your future, your relationship with your future spouse.... and if you care to agree on some small level that yes, it does affect you and your future relations. Then back to my question :
WHY DO PEOPLE STILL HAVE CASUAL SEX (OR MEANINGFUL SEX, as some are going to try to justify it as such) WITH SOMEONE WHO THEY ARE NOT MARRIED TO?
Look at it from this perspective, watch this video (you have nothing to loose?) right? I mean its just a quick video....
http://www.northpoint.org/messages/the-new-rules-for-love-sex-and-dating
