Single on Saturday Night

So here we are again, its Saturday afternoon, and I am still as single today as I was yesterday. Yesterday being Friday, and instead of heading out and meeting some other friends for 'board game night' I decided to meet with some clients of mine in a cow pasture for a BBQ. Well, I know it doesn't sound fun. I guess it might help if I elaborate and say, I am in the construction business. I am a sales manager and I work with large commercial contractors. One of my clients is about to kick off a rather large Elementary School Project and we decided to have a 'ground breaking' party and BBQ out there yesterday late afternoon. Literally, its in the middle of a soon to be large subdivision, but the land is an old ranch. Little did I know it would run into early evening. So it doesn't seem I did anything last night on a Friday night as a single 35 year old that would bring my any closer to meeting Mr. Wonderful. My clients are great guys, all are married and a very respectful bunch, but usually no one single in the group and I have a hard and fast rule "don't date anyone of your clients or business associates" - so my Friday night was a wash last night. Maybe I should of asked if anyone has a single brother? Referrals work well in my sales business, maybe I should widen my sights on what I am asking referrals for?

Ever wonder why it seems that the older you get the more you enjoy staying at home. Why staying in for the night with your favorite bottle of wine, (yes I am christian, not southern Baptist though, I do drink)and lounging in your comfy cloths, hair in a pony tail, no make-up sounds so good? I mean isn't staying home all the time kind of defeating the idea that some day you might meet your soul mate. I mean, why is it that I seem to be more content staying in than 'going out'. I mean I cant be the only person who one minute thinks "I would love for God to put the right person in front of me, the one who would become my friend, my partner, my equal" and at the same time beat myself up on Sunday afternoon when I again realize that I stayed home all weekend and really didn't get out and interact or socialize. Maybe I am the only one?

I mean where is the middle here. I want to go out interact and meet people. I love meeting people. But, I don't really want to go to the bars. I mean that in no way appeals to me. I feel like I am way past the stage where you go out on Saturday buy a new outfit, go workout and plan on meeting friends for a long night out starting at 9pm and ending somewhere around 2-3am... all that and all you get out of it is your new outfit now smells like an ashtray, someone spills a drink on you and some drunk guy approached you and forgot to take his wedding ring off before coming out tonight and yet doesn't notice and says he is single. (ok so not all 'nights out' are this bad, but they do happen)

Lets look at the options here for Singles in your mid 30's and christian to boot.
Church Singles groups - I don't know about you but our group seems to attract 80% women and only 20% men. Not good odds here God.
Going out to the bars - YUK. I mean really. I am not into being a bar fly and meaning less hook ups are in no way the direction I am headed. Besides, whats the chance that the guy who was sucking down vodka and 7's is really going to be interested in the fact that I have no intention of sleeping with him, not now and not after 2 or 20 dates either.
Internet Dating - OK did that tried it- no way. Wasn't my thing. I like the idea of keeping it 'real' and old fashioned I guess. I want to meet him in person for the first time. But hey if this works for you. Besides I have heard enough stories "the picture didn't match the person". Besides haven't you watched Dateline and 20/20 do those specials on the crazies out there. I don't feel comfortable letting someone create their ideal self, behind a computer screen and then your praying that he's normal, not a mass murderer or on the brink of financial ruin and he needs your pocket book to bail him out. OK, you get my input on this one.
Blind Dates - Look the last one I had was when I was 16 and it seems like its more for teens and tweens than for thirty and then some. Besides, I am kind of scared of what my friends would pick out for me. Do you really want to know who they think is your equal... kind of scary actually.
Dinner Clubs - I am in one, its great. You do meet some nice guys but they are usually there with an equally attractive date. I guess guys don't go to these things alone. Unlike the rest of us women, there are about 8 of us who show up each time, alone of course..

So where to go, what do you do to meet more people on Saturday night?
As I sit here my friend just text me "the girls are doing a girls night out tonight, we are going to go to dinner and then karaokeing, wanna join us?"
OK, so it sounds pretty fun. I don't have to feel guilty that I ruined another Saturday night staying at home alone. Although, that new Merlot I bought, I have really been wanting to try it... hummm.. Decisions.. decisions....
Heck, the bottle will taste better in 10 years. I may not. So I will go join the girls and lip sync to my favorite 80's songs tonight. Who knows maybe a christian man will be out there too, singing his heart out to something like Poison or U-2.

So this is single on a Saturday night... not so bad after all.